A while ago, we visited Ikea in Murcia. When we passed the children's section, I saw a large pile of stuffed animals. In the middle of that pile, I saw monkeys. I was immediately drawn to them and couldn't resist picking one up and hugging it tightly.
Emotions of compassion, loneliness, and sadness surfaced.
A Small Happiness
I was 6, and a few months of the school year had already passed before I asked my parents for a stuffed animal. Other children at boarding school had a cuddle toy to sleep with, and I felt the same need. When we visited a large department store in the city, I chose a monkey. It had a cheeky face, and I found it somewhat funny. It was rust-brown and had pink felt feet and hands. A sturdy little guy, not a soft fluffy animal. It immediately disappeared into my suitcase at home and traveled with me to the boarding school on Sunday evening. At bedtime, I pulled it close to me, hugged it tightly. I didn't give it a name. It was my monkey, my companion, and I felt less lonely. After a while, one of its legs came loose. It was still hanging by some thread to a metal ring that stuck out of its body. I pulled the thread as tight as possible and tied it up. The leg still hung a bit loose, but I didn't mind. The monkey belonged here, in my bed at boarding school. What would happen if I took it home to be repaired? Maybe I would never get it back.
A Big Unhappiness
The end of the school year was approaching with the annual highlight, the "school party." The teacher chose a song by Louis Neefs, "The Puppet Parade." Eleven children were dressed up as the characters from the song and paraded around the stage. The other children in the class stood behind them, waving as spectators.
A Zeeland farmer, an Eskimo, Little Red Riding Hood and Pinocchio, an Indian, a captain, a Mexican, and a harlequin, a noblewoman, a nobleman, and Mickey Mouse with Teddy Bear.
Afterward, the children in the parade were lined up at the front of the stage from tallest to shortest. As the smallest, slender child in the class, I was given pants with suspenders, large slippers, and a Mickey Mouse mask and ears on my head. I was unrecognizable. The teddy bear I dragged along was enormous. As the song progressed and the chorus began, the children stepped forward one by one and made a movement fitting their character. When it was my turn, I had to do a little dance with the teddy bear. At the end, there was loud applause. We were so proud of our performance!
After the performances, we could join our parents on the playground, where there was music, and everyone could enjoy a drink and cake at tables.
My mother found my performance so funny. She told me she had been looking for me among the faces on the stage the whole time and couldn't find me. When Mickey Mouse did the dance with the bear, she immediately knew it was me. I danced awkwardly like a monkey, just like my dad. She laughed.
That comment went straight to my heart. I felt ridiculous, humiliated, unrecognized for who I was, and felt immense sadness. I swallowed it all and tried to continue enjoying a day that had seemed promising.
What Touches Us Deep Inside?
It is often small things, unnoticed by people around us, that touch us the most. Sometimes we are deeply hurt by them. We just swallow the pain when we notice that our environment does not react, and we create the belief that the problem lies with us. Thus, we swallow all the sadness and unhappiness throughout our lives.
Each of us is different. Some people are more sensitive than others. In the past, you were called a "sensitive plant," you were an "outcast." Over the years, you were called an "HSP," a highly sensitive person, for whom there was more understanding.
Previous generations often did not pay much attention to their language. The life of the average person was demanding, tough, and you had to have "thick skin." If you didn't, you had to learn to grow one. Emotions were expressed in anger, psychological and physical aggression. Talking about it was "not done."
What Unhappinesses Have You Swallowed?
Each of us swallows a lot of unhappiness in our lives. These are emotions, energies that remain stuck in our bodies. These emotions are occasionally triggered when we find ourselves in similar circumstances to those in which the emotion got stuck.
When we can remove these emotions, we will no longer be triggered in similar circumstances and can react calmly and balanced to the situation.
During two consecutive Emotion Code sessions, in which I recalled my memories of the monkey mishap, the following emotions related to the event were cleared:
Desire - the desire to be seen as the person I was
Overwhelmed - overwhelmed by the comment that hurt me deeply
Anger - anger at the pain inflicted on me
Sad - sadness at not being appreciated
Abandoned - the feeling of being abandoned
Crying - crying without tears to appear strong
Unworthy - feeling unworthy, not good enough
Weak - the physical impact on my body
Taken for granted - my environment taking it for granted that I had to endure this pain
Disgust - disgust at the displayed behavior
Resentment - wanting revenge, later when I grow up
Unrequited love - not receiving the love I felt I deserved
Discouraged - discouraged, expecting no change
Heartache - deeply hurt by a person I loved
Low self-esteem - blaming myself, thinking I was the problem, not measuring up
Unsupported - feeling abandoned
Although I often notice as an Emotion Code Practitioner that many emotions can get stuck following a particular intense emotional experience, I was astonished by the number of trapped emotions linked to this event. This is, of course, not always the case, and also depends on the circumstances in which the person lived and the number of traumatic experiences. Among the listed removed trapped emotions, the ones in bold had the most impact.
From Unhappiness to Happiness
By removing our trapped emotions, we can resolve our unhappinesses. From now on, we will feel lighter, happier, and freer.
Turn your unhappinesses into happinesses and book an Emotion Code session. You will be amazed at the impact on your life!
Do you want to learn more about The Emotion Code? You can find more information on my website. Also, watch the video by Dr. Bradley Nelson, chiropractor and developer of the method.
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